This morning I stopped at the grocery store to get my husband some ice for his cooler. I was just about out of the store and I saw this big box with the freezer pops in them. They are 35 calories, no fat, carbs and about 9 g of sugar. I decided to get them because we are all trying to watch what we eat around here, but it’s a nice cool treat when we go to the pool to hang out. I was back in line checking out and the man that was sacking the groceries said to me, and I quote…”getting treats for the grandkids?” Ummm, no I’m getting them for my daughters! I am so glad that I wasn’t having a middle aged woman moment, or I would have said something snappy or smart! I could tell that he was embarrassed, so I quickly forgave him. I know that most women my age have grown children and a few grandchildren, but let’s not assume all of us are grandparents! It just made me think about women like me who waited to have children. Trust me, I wasn’t ready to have children between the ages of 18-30, and quite frankly mature enough. After I turned 30, the pressure started coming from my family, especially my momma and sister. Momma used this one all the time…”sure would like to see some grandchildren from you before I die” Really momma? They both started young, and I saw how my sister struggled with raising my nephews who are only a few years younger than myself. I know you can’t determine what’s going to happen because even waiting until 33-1/2 to have my first, and 38 when I had my youngest, I still ended up being a single mom.
This morning before summer school
Birthday party Soccer game
Everyone has an opinion on what’s the best age to have children, and this is my answer. I believe I’m a better mother at age 49-1/2 because I waited, that was the best choice for me. I’ll admit that when I found out at 37 that I was pregnant with my youngest, it wasn’t a happy time around my house. My ex-husband didn’t speak to me for two weeks, like I got pregnant on my own! I remember all the jokes, especially about how old I would be when she turns 18. I’ll be 56 when she graduates from high school, still have plenty of living to do. I love being a mother, my girls amaze me. My oldest daughter has Asperger’s Syndrome and she is shining! She is a honor roll student, loves acting and singing. God knew what he was doing when he brought her to my life, the challenges we face and her bright future. My baby is a honor roll student as well, has energy that I can’t understand and I encourage her to enjoy her life. I talk to them about life, what to expect and what is expected of them. Yeah I love this job….wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. I am a middle aged woman with two school aged girls at home, and I’m proud of it! As my girl Rene’ Syler of Good Enough Mother would say, you don’t have to be perfect, just good enough! Have a wonderful weekend, thanks for your support!
