12 Things We Must Do For Ourselves

Women have a strength about themselves that can boggle the mind. Take the lyrics from the song by Chaka Khan, “I’m every woman, it’s all in me”.  We think we can handle it all, and we get the job done.   But at what price, our health and mental well being?  Here’s the thing…sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. That’s always on my mind, ways to encourage you as well as myself about taking care of our mind, body and soul.  I’m always reading articles, watching interviews on TV about women and how they are unhappy, stressed, worn out and feeling worthless because they have not been in the habit of taking care of themselves, including our health. We’ve got to change this. 

I work from home and I still need to take time for myself.  I have a schedule that I follow for work, do work around the house, run errands and write for my blog.  Then it’s time for everyone to come home, eat dinner, homework and make sure everyone is ready for the next day.  Notice I didn’t say I cook every night.  I cook several days a week, and I cook enough to last at least two days.  I try to take time for my favorite craft, making jewelry.  At the end of my day, I’m exhausted and ready for bed. I try to stay up until 10:00 to spend time with my children, it’s hard but I do it. They understand most of the time that I’m tired.  I know that I’m setting a good example for them by taking care of myself.  At times I close the door to my bedroom so I can concentrate without being disturbed.  These are just a few of the things I do to take care of myself.  Here are a few others I came up with.  If you have more, please share. 

1. Learn how to say no…say it with me “N-O!”

2. Get at least 6 hours of sleep. Take short naps during the day if your schedule allows.

3. Laugh at yourself and others. Lighten up ladies, I’m guilty of this myself at times.

4. Call or go visit an old friend or someone that you haven’t had any contact with in quite a while. I don’t mean Facebook, Twitter or text message either.

5. Get all of your yearly checkups, mammogram, pap smear, flu shot (if you do that), dentist.

6. Do something by yourself, go see a movie, visit the zoo, museum, shopping (some women don’t like to do anything by themselves).

7. Love people, but keep contact with negative people to a minimum. They are dream killers and bring stress to your life.

8.  Take time for the love of your life.  It’s so easy to get into the hustle of everyday life and forget what made you love that special person in the first place.

9. Exercise ladies…a struggle for me too! Walking is always our best friend if you are able to do it.

10. Eat healthy meals, another struggle with this menopause thing. I do try hard to maintain my weight. It’s always gonna be work for me. Don’t feel alone on this one. Remember we are middle aged women and we can’t do everything we see or read about. Always consult with your doctor on items 9 and 10.

11.  Volunteer at a women’s shelter, it’s a eye opening experience.  I plan to do more of this one.  Women have amazing stories and we can encourage each other.

12. Spend time with God on a daily basis. It helps to keep you focused and will help with dealing with issues 1-11!

Be encouraged and remember to love yourself!

 

Whitney

 

 

 

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Welcome!

Hello, welcome to my journey.  I’ve been putting this off because I was a little nervous about my first blog.  I realized I was trying too hard, I just needed to flow and write what was on my mind.  Blogging isn’t new to me, I thought I didn’t have enough to say to start my own blog.  I started researching blogs for middle aged black women, and didn’t come up with much, actually nothing.  There are blogs and communities that support women over 40…I love them and have joined them,  but nothing for women of color.  I wondered if I started a blog, would I get followers, and do I have what it takes to write/blog on a consistent basis?  I’ve put a lot of thought and research into this, and trust me when I say I’m stepping out on faith, to share my story and opinions about being a middle aged woman.  I’m starting it with a day in the life approach, ask for suggestions on different topics, do some surveys, and have a little fun while we’re here.   I’m not an expert,  I will research topics and provide resources to support what a particular subject is.  I’ll tweak this blog as we go along, I would love to create a community out of this blog for my sistas.  Let me know what you think. I do ask that we respect each other, remember that we are all different and have different opinions, and create a sisterhood like no other.  Looking forward to this journey.

I want to be an encouragement to anyone that reads my blog, I also want to be encouraged and inspired by you all as well.  As we are close out 2011, lets take the time to remember who loves, admires, uplifts, encourages and inspires us.  Also let’s remember who disappointed, hurt and abandoned us, so we can leave it in 2011.  We don’t want to take anything into the new year or our life from this moment on that is going to be a burden or keep us from seeing our future positively.   I leave you with this bible verse, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV. 

Whitney

 

 

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