I take my role as a mother very seriously as most of you do. I want them to reach for the stars, try new things and live the best life. I could handle their activities when they were younger, it was tight but I did it. As they get older, that price doubles at times triples! It’s hard telling them at times we can’t afford certain activities but I promised myself I would always tell them the truth. I don’t go into detail but I explain to them the reason why we can’t do a certain activity. Do they always understand, no but they are troopers and show me they can handle the truth.
I was a very active teenager, I wasn’t in everything…let’s just say I did have my picture in the yearbook more than just the class section. Yes, I went to high school several generations ago, but my parents had to tell me that I couldn’t participate in a certain activity. The one that comes to mind and will always be the most vivid is missing prom in my senior year. I went to prom in my sophomore year as an user, twice in my junior year, but I missed my senior year. All my friends went our senior year, all of them. They came by my house right before they went to prom and let me see them all dressed up and pretty. My momma’s thinking was I went twice the year before, this last one wasn’t bad. I was crushed, but I survived it. Don’t feel bad, I was able to attend all the other senior activities and eventually got over missing the prom.
When my mother was my age and going through menopause I didn’t understand a thing about what she was going through. Momma was the kind of woman that kept personal stuff to herself. She may have shared it with her friends, and I’m sure my daddy knew but I didn’t. I was a young adult at the time. My girls ask me when something isn’t right, they know when I’m out of whack. I just explain that I’m tired and my youngest always ask me, why are you so tired? I explained to my daughter that I’m at that age when things start to change and some days are better than others, which includes me being tired all the time. I told her that all women will go through this at one point in their life. I always try to keep it light but discuss life with them, it’s so important.
The truth also includes making sure my girls understand how to respect and understand when someone with a certain amount of wisdom speaks to them and at times has a lesson to share. This is the stage that we are entering now, about being a young woman, what to seek in life and how to recognize the truth in people. My momma didn’t talk much about life with me, and I understand why. I talk about life everyday to my girls, I tell them how much I love them and how proud I am of them. I want them to have confidence and not lack from not understanding that life happens. That’s the best truth I can share with them.