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Cloudy….Then Clear

Ever feel like you are at your wits end? If one more thing in your life goes wrong, and you will completely lose it? That is where I was today, about to go over the end. Seems like I haven’t gotten anything but bad news or situations for the last month. It has made me question if this move was the best thing for us. I’m not really feeling sorry for myself, just have a lot going on and wanted to complain about it. I don’t mean to rant, I just get frustrated about what’s going on in my life at this time. My husband even said today that maybe we should have stayed in St Louis. I gave the phone a serious “side eye” when he said that.

Then you read about someone losing a loved one, their home, having no food to eat, dealing with all kind of illness, physical and mental. It really bothers me when I see or read about children that are homeless or hungry. I have a nephew who is paranoid schizophrenic, who isn’t doing very well. I then become ashamed of myself and realize how blessed I am. I don’t ever want to come across as a spoiled, ungrateful woman who can’t see past her own little issues. I’m far from that, just got caught up with “me”. Seems like right now everyone has a little something going on in their lives, everyone I’ve talked to since I’ve been back is going through one thing or another. I have to step out of my pitifulness and realize things could be worse. This is just a test, I don’t want to fail it.

All these minor things can be fixed, repaired or will just have to simply wait until the money is available. I wanted everything fixed yesterday, I’m so impatient….then I wonder why my girls are like that??? I found someone who will be able to do the repairs to our home, one room/project at a time. He was a sweetheart and fixed my water lines so I could have hot water in the house and we could bathe and do laundry. The hubs was pleased with him too, which is hard because he can be hard on people.

The clouds do clear and make way for the sun….and life goes on. Sometimes you just have to encourage yourself, and remind yourself how blessed you really are. One of my favorite songs, enjoy.

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Encouragement and a Smile…

Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. Do you know why you are on this earth and what you should be doing? I finally understand what my purpose is in this world. As a Christian, I am suppose to share the gospel and encourage people to give their life to Christ. I believe that and I do my part to share the gospel. Women contribute a great deal of wealth, information, education and support to our society, families and careers, but we are not so good when it comes to nurturing our relationships with one another.

The last week or so I have participated in online conversations about women and our relationships with one another and ways we can heal. I know we can do it because of all the wonderful women I have met online since I started blogging almost 5 months ago. I don’t have all the answers, but I know that it is my responsibility to be supportive, loving, and have something positive that will help at least one woman heal. If that happens, then I’ve done my job and will receive favor in God’s eyes. I have to remain humble while I share with you all, but I would love to see women heal to the point that our relationships with one another will not be an issue anymore. If we could just work on current relationships that are damaged, or reconnect with someone from our past, we are doing our part.

I’m not saying that we all have to be BFF’s, only a few people make that category if any. Trust me, I know there are some relationships we can’t fix or heal. In those situations, let’s do what I always say, forgive them and/or the situation and keep it moving. I’m simply suggesting that we try being more courteous with one another, smile at each other and just say something that will make another person’s day. You never know, you may just be that ray of hope a person needs to turn their life around. We are nurturers, we love our families, give our husbands and children our all until there is nothing left to give to ourselves (I stopped doing that one). I make time for myself now, and I’m a happier woman because of it. When we are out in our social circles, let’s think about the woman that seems a little uncomfortable because no one is talking to her. You don’t know what is going on in her life, but reaching out to her will let her know that you cared enough to approach her. That one greeting may resonate with her for years to come.

I did a little shopping today and put my suggestions to test. I saw one woman in the grocery store who was 62 years young, and she looked marvelous! She had on some white cropped jeans, a bright pink blouse and some striped, cork heeled wedge shoes, with a bright pink purse! Her hair was white, cut short and she had on some rocking glasses! I told her how wonderful she looked, and she told me that I made her day and she refuses to be an old grandma! She also told me she has 6 grown children and 10 grandchildren. I wanted to take her picture so bad, but didn’t want to scare her away! I did tell her I was going to write about her in my blog. I also saw a woman who had on some nice jewelry, and I complimented her on it, and I’m going by her store this week! See what happens when you take a moment to speak to someone? Every woman I made eye contact with I spoke to, and all with a positive reaction.

Maybe I’m encouraging you in some way, if so then take that encouragement and run with it. I just want to see women have better relationships with one another. What we see on TV has gotten out of control. My purpose is to spread stories that uplift, encourage, make you laugh and think. Some stories will be about me, my family, other people and situations. That is my purpose, part of my journey. I love music, and I think this video is perfect. Have a good week, and smile at someone! Take care!