Vision and Journey

I’m a day behind on the mini blog challenge, but I still wanted to present my vision board I made on Picmonkey.  I love using Picmonkey, it’s so easy to use.   It’s brief, to the point and shows what my vision is, marriage, family, blogging, natural hair, social networking and drinking coffee.  Let me know what you all think! myvisionboard

It took me a long time to realize what my vision and purpose was.  I would work at everything and try this and that, but something was always missing.  I never realized how much pressure I was putting on myself by trying to live up to my last job and salary.  It was way to much pressure.  My husband lovingly brought that to my attention because I was stressing about not doing my part financially.  That was my vision when I was a single mother, and I can’t hold myself hostage to that any longer.  I’ve finally let go of the “good job” and be in control of my destiny.

My vision and reality today is working from home, blogging, crafting and being there for my family.  It has taken me a while to grasp that and accept it.  I’m a woman who has not been open to change, I would resist.  One more layer gone, I’m loving it!  

What is your vision or purpose?  Share please.

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Last Day of Blog Challenge!

 

 

 

I know I sound crazy, but this is the last day of my blog challenge.  I completed the challenge of blogging Monday~Friday, during the month of July to celebrate my 50th birthday and moving.  Two things I learned from this ~

1. Never set up a challenge when you are planning a move!  I almost checked myself into the hospital.  

2. I will probably go back to blogging 3 days a week, unless I have something that can’t wait.

 

The challenge did give me some ideas for my blog, topics and things I want to implement.  One thing is to use all my pictures and when I blog about current events, celebrities, or anything that requires a picture of the subject I may just use a video or nothing at all.  That scare about being sued for using someones photographs was enough for me.  I can’t afford to be sued for that.  Understood and will respect the industry and other people’s work.  That means I will be on my quest to get a digital camera for blogging, there are some nice ones, Sony, Cannon, Nikon, Pentax.  Now, I probably will not get it for quite some time, so I will continue to use my iPhone and Kodak digital camera.  I love taking pictures, so I’m so looking forward to this.  I also want to take a creative writing class.  I’ve been asked to guest blog a couple of times and I just want to make sure I’m writing to the best of my ability.  I will probably find one at the community college near our home.   

I have met some very nice women in the last month or so, one I want to mention because she has an online magazine coming out.  Her name is Kita and her magazine is KoKoa Magazine and her blog is Say What U Wanna .  The magazine launches tomorrow, August 1st, go check it out.  Brenda, from Pibbles N Me she nominated me one of  ”Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award”!  Thanks Brenda, I really don’t know 7 bloggers that I follow or know enough to pass the award on to, but I appreciate the blog love.  Go check out both of the blogs, they give me blog love all the time.  

The girls and I are leaving Thursday morning, so we can be there when the water is turned on and I’m having the carpet cleaned.  I want to clean the place from top to bottom, the girls don’t know how much work they are in for (tee hee).   They are taking their swimming gear for fun when we finish cleaning.  The hubs and furniture will travel on Friday.   

I took this picture on Sunday, love the suntan I have if I must say so myself.  I have a cousin that’s a photographer, I am gonna ask her to take portraits of my family this fall.  It’s time, we need new ones.  It was an interesting month, can’t wait to blog about the house and hopefully the transformation that will happen.   Be encourage everyone…

 

 

 

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Calm In the Middle of the Storm

Hope you all had a great weekend.  I finally found some peace throughout all this madness I’ve been going through.  It was simple, my situation isn’t as bad as it could be.  I am blessed to have a home to move to.  Things can be replaced, relationships can be repaired.  I needed that reminder.  I went to church yesterday, my last service at Shalom Church ~ City of Peace in Florissant, MO.   Service was awesome, I’m gonna miss being a member of this church.  

 

 

Don’t you hate it when you get all worked up about something, when you know there’s nothing you can do about it?  It’s the human side of us, the way we react to situations.  I’m glad I was able to recognize that I needed to calm down, breathe and keep going.  I was a mess last week, because of the stress of moving.  It’s almost like I took medication  or something to calm me down, which I probably needed.    I just have to remember that bad things happen to good people all the time, can’t sweat the small stuff.  

I was invited to be a guest blogger at MyBlogalicious and my post was featured yesterday, go check me out please and leave a comment.  It was a great honor and privilege to have a opportunity to write for them, thanks to Krystal Grant  for the invite.  Just when you think no one is paying attention, they are.  Be prepared for anything life brings, it’s an amazing journey.  Be blessed and have a great week.  

 

 

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Natural Hair Update

It has been one emotional week, and I’m so glad I made it to Friday.  I wanted to end the week on a light note, something that doesn’t require me to think or stress me out.  It’s my hair, I just wanted to share updated pictures about my hair journey.  I cut off all my hair on March 9th, I took the scissors and did an Angela Bassett move like she did in “Waiting To Exhale”.  Two days later, I was at the barber shop so early, let’s say I beat him there and waited until he showed up.  He was so nice, and fixed the mess I brought to him.  Four months later, I am happy with my progress.  I’ve learned so much by watching videos, different support groups and I also belong to NaturalSunshine.com, a community for women who are wearing their hair natural.  It’s a great support system, we bounce ideas off each other, tips, and support each other.  It’s not easy for black women to cut their hair off and grow it in it’s natural state.  We have been taught from the time we are able to understand about how beauty is represented, and for a lot of us we identify with our hair.  I wore relaxers for years, but several times starting from 1993, I have cut off all my hair and wore it natural and short.  I would grow it back, and do the process all over again, several times in the last 19 years.  I loved my hair, very rarely had bad hair days.  When I did, I would pull it back in a ponytail and keep it moving.  Then after I had my hysterectomy, my hair started to thinning and shedding.  I wasn’t taking any hormones or any other medication.  That’s when I finally decided I was going natural and this time it was for good.

 

 

In December of last year, I decided I wasn’t going to relax my hair any longer.  As a matter of fact, I am going chemical free for this year.  Boy, the gray is taking over, so after my one year no chemicals challenge, I may consider some form of coloring, not sure what I’ll do.  I’m researching that option now.  Needless to say, the reaction I got from my husband and children wasn’t exactly what I wanted.  Glad I didn’t let that stop me from this journey with my hair.  It’s so liberating to me, I’ve learned so much, wished I had known this 19 years ago when I started cutting my hair off.  There are so many products now made for our hair, whether you are wearing chemicals or not.  The hair care industry has really stepped up their game and produced products without sulfates, parabens or other harmful chemicals and additives. 

 

I know this move isn’t for everyone, and I can respect your opinion.  I just wanted to share my journey with you.  My husband still looks at pictures before my “big chop” like I was a different woman!  He has a running joke that he has the longest hair in the house!  He’ll be ok….pray for him everyone.  Two more days for my challenge.  Whew!  Have a great weekend.

 

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Random Thoughts at The Mocha Cafe

I’m tired and dusty, but I’m making my way through all our belongings.  The Salvation Army will be here tomorrow to pick up about 5 large bags and 3 boxes of clothing, shoes, and other miscellaneous stuff that we no longer use.  I gave away 15-20 pairs of shoes alone!  I know, I don’t why I had so many pairs of shoes, many of them were at least 5 years old and I haven’t worn them in at least 2 years.  One more week until the move…

 

I read this post on BlogHer today and I immediately went in and removed all pictures that I found on the internet to do some of my posts with.  I really can’t afford to pay for the stock photo websites, so I’ll continue to use my own pictures.  This will be my incentive to get my new camera…

 

I haven’t talked about my hair journey in a while, it’s really growing and this time I’m keeping it natural.  Look to the right at my Instagram pictures….

 

I’m ready to prepare a home cooked meal.  It’s been so hot, we’ve been eating out and a lot of sandwiches and salads….

 

This picture was hilarious to me the other day…

 

 

We went to Cracker Barrel last weekend…

 

The week is almost over….have a restful evening. 

 

 

 

 

 

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Wordless Wednesday

Here’s a few pictures from my two years in St Louis and from the past weekend in Kansas City……

 

St Louis Zoo

Botanical Gardens~St Louis before I cut my hair off

The Arch~St Louis

Downtown Kansas City

The Historic City Market~Kansas City and my husband

Legoland Display~Crown Center

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Dirty Laundry and Family Issues

I was watching Good Morning America this morning and looking at the Jackson family situation.  It’s easy for us to form opinions on celebrities and their family issues, but I would hate to be put in the spotlight like that, every move ~ good or bad, scrutinized by everyone.  Katherine Jackson in my opinion, is tired and being the caretaker for three children is a lot for a woman her age.  Taking family affairs to social media, with millions of people following you, that’s where I disagree and where it fails us.  Even in our everyday lives, I’ve seen family and friends ruin relationships because of social media.  Some things just need to be handled the old fashioned way, in person and in private.  I’m not gonna get into the issues of what the family should or shouldn’t do, we don’t know all the details.  Let’s be mindful of that when we start to shred that family apart.  I am very private, and it would tear me apart to see every move my family made be on TV, social media, everywhere.  I know they have been in the public eye for over 40 years, but some issues need to be private, that’s all.  What do you all think?

 

I’m having a hard time with some issues I’m dealing with right now, and as much as I would love to blast the wrong I feel that has been done to me, I’m choosing not to do that.  I put things into perspective when I’m complaining about what’s happening, I know that I’m blessed and things will work out.  I’m going to continue to pray through this situation, for families to love one another despite differences, and for the people of Aurora, Colorado at this very difficult time.  Have a wonderful day, be blessed.

 



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Be True To Yourself

 

 

The weekend was crazy, amazing and I’m tired.  So much happened this weekend, it will take me all week to blog about it.  But I won’t, it’s time to let it go.  Today, I want to focus on being true to yourself.  I have to make some changes, and that is being true to myself and really listening to that inner voice and allowing God to order my steps.  I need to speak up when something isn’t right instead of just letting it go.   I will speak up, when it comes to my family, if I’m out shopping, but I want to practice this ALL the time.  You know the feeling, you are being walked over like a doormat?  Nope, after this weekend no more of that.   

If I don’t make these changes, I’ll end up closing myself off from the world, and that’s not gonna happen.  So I need to make adjustments to how I handle people and situations.  I have a voice and I want to use it positively, that will not stop.  This is why blogging was necessary, for me.

I love people, I observe everything about people, I can sit for hours and watch people.   I like to imagine what their personality is, what makes them who they are.   I don’t want to lose that connection I have, but I just need to be true to myself, my husband and children.  What happened yesterday is done, and it’s time to move on.  We have two weeks before our big move, so it’s getting down to the wire now.  Have a wonderful day everyone, enjoy the song from my girls, Mary Mary…love them.

 

 



 

 

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I Miss You Daddy

I miss him.  Terribly.  I was his little girl, the apple of his eye.  I thought he was Mr. Wonderful-Superman-Fix-It, he was.  Tomorrow it will be 7 years ago that you left us.  You were hard working, smart, quiet and reserved man.  I’ve only witnessed you being upset once in my life, and it was because of me bickering with my mother and you had enough.  You offered your opinion, never demanding we do what you suggested.  Simply put, you loved your family and we miss you so much.  To your immediate family you were known as “Buck”, we used to love hearing them call you by your nickname.  

My daddy retired from the Navy in 1965 and moved us back to Kansas City.  That was also the year my youngest brother was born.  He worked for TWA for 20 years until he retired in 1986 due to a buyout.  Daddy wasn’t ready to retire, but the buyout was such a good deal, he couldn’t refuse it and he was 60 years old.  He loved sports, would watch a game on TV and always had a radio by his side, next to “his” chair to listen to the Royals or Chiefs play.  That was before cable, if some of you can imagine…no cable.  Yep, sure didn’t.  On the weekends, he would always cook a big breakfast, that was his thing, cooking breakfast and barbecuing.  I remember having this dream right before he died, my mother came to me and told me everything was gonna be alright.  It woke me and scared me a little, I told my girlfriend’s mother about the dream and she said it’s time for him to go.  I believed her and on my way to his house after church, we saw an ambulance and by the time I got to the house, the ambulance was at my dad’s house.  We just prepared ourselves, I was losing my daddy.  We are about to leave for Kansas City, and the first thing I’m gonna do is go to the cemetery.  

 

 

Phillip W. Gordon Sr  ~  September 10, 1926 – July 21, 2005

 

 

My momma passed away in 2003.  I think my daddy missed her so much because he was healthy and just fine until after we lost her.  He got sick, he hid a spider bite from us until he had to be hospitalized.  We lost him 8 months later.   My family came to celebrate his life with his children.  It was comforting to have them around, it had been a while since I’ve seen many of them.  

 

 

Gotta love family!  Rest Uncle Buck, we all miss and love you!  Have a great weekend everyone!  

 

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Heat Exposure

It’s a record breaking heatwave here in the mid-west.  It’s been over 90 degrees everyday this month, with the temperature at over 100 degrees most of this month.  We are in the middle of a draught, we haven’t had any serious rain since spring.  It’s bad here, with different municipalities banning watering your lawn, washing your car and other bans because of the shortage.  The Missouri and Mississippi Rivers are at an all time low.  We have had 13 deaths in this area due to the excessive heat, very scary.  My husband is a letter carrier for the United States Postal Service, and I am very concerned about his health while he is out working.  He takes plenty of water and other drinks like Gatorade, Powerade and what his postal customers give him while he is on his route.  One bad thing is he doesn’t eat during the day, so he’s exhausted and starving when he gets home.  He says the food will weigh him down and make him sick.  Let’s keep everyone that works in these elements in mind throughout the day.   If you are able, offer your mailman, landscape worker, street worker or anyone that works outside some water.  They will truly appreciate it.  

 

 


 

 

 

Photo courtesy stltoday.com

 

 

I also don’t understand why the walkers and joggers exercise in the heat of the day?  The walk from the house to the car about knocks me out.  I love walking, but I don’t do it in the summer at all.  When it cools off in September, I’ll start up again.   Hot flashes and walking in the heat, bad idea.

 

Don’t forget to check on your elderly and disabled neighbors and relatives.  Most of the deaths that have been reported could have been avoided but older people don’t like to run their air conditioners.  I saw a report on the news that explained our body temperature changes as we get older, and we don’t get as warm as when we were younger.   What’s happening is they don’t think they need the air conditioner.  One lady that died, accidentally turned on her heat instead of the air.   Try to get them to turn it on, go to a cooling center, or take them to the grocery store/mall to get them out of the house and cool off.  Also, let’s not forget our four legged family members as well, they need to be cool as well.  I just don’t want to hear about any more deaths due to the weather.  Stay safe and let’s pray for some rain.  

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