I love my children and I want them to succeed in life at whatever they choose to do. Last week I had several articles on my Facebook news feed about parents going to job interviews with their children. Hold on, just wait! What did I just read? I couldn’t believe it. Check out this article on MSN Money and USA Today. College graduates are actually taking their parents on job interviews with them, parents are calling in to the human resource departments to speak on their children’s behalf. It’s pretty amazing if you ask me.
Of all people I know how hard it is to find employment these days, and for recent college graduates some have to take jobs that weren’t in their major or work 2-3 part-time jobs to make ends meet. Do what you have to do until your dream job comes along, but taking your parents with you on interviews? No, sorry what are people doing to their children? We want the best for them, but once they are adults, we have to know where to cut our parental strings with them.
I will even have to do that with my oldest daughter who is autistic. There may come a time when she may not want to live at home, she may want to live in a environment where she can be with other disabled adults. As much as that scares me, I have to be willing to let her make that decision if she is able to. When my girls come to me with social issues they are having with peers at school, it’s all I can take sometimes not to want to jump in and defend them, but I can’t. I will tell them the truth, not sugar coat it, not handle it for them, give them my opinion and suggest ways they can handle their situation.
We want to protect our children at all cost, but as we raise these young people we have to prepare them for life, real life. I understand them living at home longer, I’m ok with that, but that also brings certain responsibilities. It’s hard out there now, but I’m really having a hard time wrapping my mind around a middle aged man/woman going on a job interview with their grown children. I wonder how the interviewer would react when they walked into the room and saw two people realizing one was a parent? Would you all hire them?
This issue has me all over the place because I started thinking about all issues when it comes to protecting and helping our children. I know that I will not always be around, so I want to make sure they are able to take care of themselves, which includes making sure they will be prepared to find and hold a job when they are ready to work.
I also wanted to mention the 300 teenagers that destroyed former NFL player Brian Holloway’s home. They tweeted pictures and destroyed his home. When he set up a website and invited the kids to come by and help clean up only one teenager showed up. He also wanted to talk about substance abuse and how to move forward from this point. The parents are threatening to sue him and he has received threats. These are the same parents that will also go on interviews with their children. They need to be held responsible.
On a lighter note, I know which one of my children will keep a nice home and which one will be a slob, but they both have been taught how to clean and we are in the cooking process now. They know how to do laundry and know how to use an iron. I will not do their chores for them at home. They know better, I don’t play when it comes to my house. I’m am old school I know, but we have to make sure they are ready for this world.
Share with me, I know I’m old school and I’m okay with that. Do you think parents are creating unrealistic goals for their adult children by going on interviews with them?