Friends With Your Ex?

This February challenge for NaBloPoMO is funny to me.  I decided to participate because I needed a challenge and love is a favorite topic of mine.

 Let me say this, I don’t hold on to the past, not for long anyway.  I’m a very forgiving woman, always have been.  That’s just how I operate.  Being friends with my exes before marriage, hasn’t been a very successful for me because I don’t know where half of them are.  I’ve lost a lot of weight since I was with them, so for selfish reasons, I would love to run into a few of them, especially the guy from college.  I was soooo in love with him.  He wanted to love everyone else, which is why it didn’t work.    I am friends with one ex on Facebook, we dated in the mid 80′s, so we are over one another.  

I’m not friends with either of my ex-husbands, but that’s more complicated than boyfriends.   My girls have no contact with their biological father at all, who is my second husband.   Another post, another day and I will blog about this very soon.  There is no holding a grudge on my part, we should be civil with one another for our daughters’ sake.

This topic is bringing more the reality than I thought.  It’s making me reminisce on how they became an “ex” in the first place?  Hmmm, have you all ever thought about that?  When I was dating, most of the break-ups were for three reasons:  cheating, crazy men, and men wanting my money.  Yep, I would break up with you if you appeared crazy to me.  I wasn’t taking no chances with being abused by a man because of a bad relationship.   It wasn’t worth it to me.  I dated a man about 6 years ago that always talked about what a woman did for him.  I immediately checked him by saying, I’m a single mother and the only people I spend money on was me and my girls.  We dated for almost a year, it wasn’t a good fit and I stopped dating him.   We are cordial but not friends, I wouldn’t confide in him about anything.  

Wow, I was all over the place on this subject wasn’t I?  I will be cordial with an ex-boyfriend or even my ex-husbands, but to hang out and talk to them on a regular basis, nope I’ll pass.  What do you ladies think about this one?   Here’s one of my favorite break up songs…of course it’s old school.  RIP Sugarfoot, the lead singer of the Ohio Players, he died last week from heart failure.