I enjoy my children and watching them go from babies to the young ladies they are today. My oldest is loving, quiet and loves music. My youngest is inquisitive, athletic, loving and very opinionated. This is their personalities and who God intended for them to be. I knew the phase of boys, love and everything associated with it would happen. Here’s my daughter’s story and her “first date”.
My daughter reconnected with a friend of hers when we were in Kansas City last year. She met him in elementary school and he is autistic, just like she is. They have been planning this meeting/trip for at least a month. My daughter was so excited, talked about it every day this week, I mean every day. I took her to buy a friendship card for him and she picked an appropriate card with my help. The young man, his mom and baby sister (8 months old) arrived around 11:00. We were outside waiting because they took a wrong turn. He introduced himself to me, gave me a firm handshake and hugged my daughter for what seemed like 2 minutes. It was so long, his mother had to tell him they better get going. He was quite the gentleman, opening the door to the minivan for my daughter. The mom gave me their agenda, the Gateway Arch, Museum, lunch and then the zoo. They were gone all day, I wondered how she was doing but I didn’t call. I did send her a text that she didn’t answer. I didn’t freak out, I just figured she was having fun and her phone was in her purse.
I talked to my daughter and explained to her that if she felt uncomfortable at all to call me and I would come and get her. I also made sure she had money to pay for her own food. The plan was for the friend to treat her to lunch but I also told her that she could buy her own lunch and spend her money if there was a problem. I remember my momma having this same talk with me when I started dating. She was prepared and ready for her day with her friend.
They showed up and we were standing outside waiting because they took a wrong turn. He jumped out and hugged her and his mom and I talked for a few minutes…you know getting info on where they were going from the mother, just to make sure everyone was on the same page. They had plenty of water and drinks because they were gonna be outside all day. My daughter’s friend was quite the gentleman, opening the door and helping her in the minivan. They took off and I was happy for my daughter because she doesn’t have many friends and socializing is a challenge for her.
Around 5:00 they showed up and everyone looked worn out, even the poor baby. She had been crying, she was just probably sleepy. I watched as her friend got out of the minivan, ran and opened the door for my daughter. It was so sweet, it really was. She was still smiling, exhausted but happy. The whole crew was tired. Mom ran the day down and how my daughter did, sometimes people with Autism will have melt downs. Seems like she got through the day but she did complain about the baby crying, she’s not used to being around babies. I asked her to apologize, she did and felt bad.
She took some great pictures and we talked about the day and what I asked her how she felt about the young man. She told me they were friends and wouldn’t be able to be girlfriend/boyfriend until after she turned 18. I’m so glad she had a good time and I can live with not having a boyfriend until after she turns 18.