This is the face and story of a middle aged woman….

I started receiving invitations from AARP about 5 years ago via email.  I was kind of offended, I wasn’t old enough for AARP yet, at least I thought so.  Each time I would get something via email or mail, I would joke about it on Facebook.  One friend told me that they offer great discounts and I should check it out.  Discounts?  I sure will, I’ll take advantage of any membership that offers discounts, period.  My husband will ask about a military discount in a heart beat.  I don’t blame him, he earned it.  Ok fast forward 5 years, I have liked the AARP page on Facebook, and they posted a question asking people to name the Kardashian’s in order.  People started going off about who cares and why would they post something so stupid?  I could name Kim, Kourtney and mom Kris, that’s all.  I still can’t think if the others without hitting the Google.  It made me think, do we become less accepting when we get older?  These people were really cranky about the question, I mean going off saying they should focus on other things instead of the Kardashian’s.  It was just something for fun, a trivia  question.  Criticize the Kardashian’s if you want, but Kris Jenner is a hell of a good business woman.   Has she made mistakes?  Yes, but that comes with business.  Lighten up people, I don’t plan to lose my sense of humor or act like I’m ready to be put in the nursing home.  

There is another page on Facebook that I’ve liked, “Black Women Are Sexy”, they show different pictures of women, write positive affirmations and other interesting things black women may be interested in.  They posted a picture of a woman this morning, giving her name and age.  She was 47 years old and had on a short dress that was fitting and hitting her curves.  People cut this woman up so bad, mostly women.  I don’t like how the internet has allowed people to be mean to the point that it’s hurtful.  I realize when you upload pictures on the internet, you take your chances.  Check it out here, it’s not a look that I would do, but that’s what makes us different, and we have the right to wear our hair and the kind of clothing that we please.  Most of the responses were from younger women that kept saying, her body is ok, she looks good for her age like she was 70.  Here’s one thing about black women, if you take care of yourself from those early adult years, you know…..when others are abusing drugs or drinking heavily, staying up all night, heavy partying, then when you are 45 and up you will be able to hold on to your looks.  I can only speak for myself.  My class reunion was two years ago, and time hadn’t been kind to some of the women, but I’m telling you, it was because of the abuse they put their bodies through when we were younger.  

One of the reasons I started this blog was to blog about my journey, and to support women over 40.  We don’t really have a platform, we get an article here or there.  We have a magazine, but they changed it to add women age 30.  When I was 30, I wasn’t thinking about age 40 until I had a baby at 38.  I want to brand myself, the middle aged diva.  Life is what you make it at any age.  As my momma used to say….keep on living.  Isn’t that the truth.